Confident, fashionable people with disabilities are not often portrayed in the media. It’s almost as if we don’t exist because how can a person with a disability have “style goals” or love their life? Surely we’re all suffering and hiding away from society? We must all just live in our bedrooms wearing sweatpants and hoodies? Right?
No. Sorry to burst your bubble, but it’s just not true. People living with disabilities and chronic conditions can be as just as stylish as the next person. Granted, I wear pyjamas way more often than I do actual clothes. But when I do get dressed, I like to look my best.
Not feeling the love
Fashion is a massive part of my life, and believe it or not, I’ve only found a love for it in the last year.
Before that, I wasn’t confident with my body. I wasn’t sure how to dress my wheelchair-using, disabled self, so I lived in oversized hoodies and jeans whenever I went out. Although this felt more comfortable, I wasn’t happy. I always felt like I looked like I hadn’t made an effort and that people knew what to expect. I didn’t love my plus-size body, and I didn’t think I could wear anything else.
I’ve always had a particular style that I’ve gravitated towards, and I’ve always been a bit alternative. But could I pull that off? Could I rock a mini skirt, a slogan tee and Dr. Marten shoes? I created so many looks that I was desperate to wear in my head.
But I wasn’t brave enough. I wasn’t slim enough, and I wasn’t physically able.
I gave myself so many reasons why I couldn’t wear skirts, like:
- They’d get caught in my wheels
- They’d ride up and be uncomfortable
- They’d show off too much of my bruised, scarred legs
Changing my perception of my body
But then something clicked in me last year. I was approached by a brand that wanted to photograph me in an outfit. It was the first time I'd ever had full-length images taken in my power chair (motorised wheelchair).
I'd always shied away from head-to-toe shots because I'm plus-size and felt like I'd been conditioned to dislike my own body. I had wanted to change my figure since I was a teenager. I tried all kinds of diets and exercises. Mostly, I found they either exacerbated the symptoms of my chronic conditions, or they just didn't work.
Despite all this, I was still desperate to look like the women from the magazines and television. I wanted to look like them so badly, I'd convinced myself I didn't deserve to wear pretty clothes because my figure didn't match theirs. These garments couldn't possibly look good on me.
Realising I looked great
After being photographed by the brand, I looked through the images, and I didn't hate them.
In fact, I thought I looked great.
I then started thinking: “if I’d seen more women who looked like me when I was growing up, maybe my body image would be completely different.”
These photos ignited a passion in me that took my love of fashion to a whole new level. I began wearing clothes I’d told myself I could never wear. My wardrobe expanded quickly, and my journey with body positivity finally began.
My shelves went from harbouring only skinny jeans and hoodies to dresses, skirts of all lengths, shirts, tops of all styles, and jackets and blazers in all kinds of colours. And I finally got my first pair of Dr. Martens.
Growing in confidence
My whole outlook on myself and my body completely flipped around. People began complimenting me on my outfits, asking me for style tips and telling me how much I’d grown in confidence. And I felt like it. I felt like a weight had been lifted from me because I no longer cared what anyone thought of me, as long as I felt good.
Although I spend a lot of time at home and in my pyjamas, I try to push myself to go out and make an effort at least once a week. That might seem silly to some people, but it’s a big deal for me.
My chronic conditions take a huge toll on my life. I need to plan rest days before and after I go out so my body can recuperate. So, on the days I do have plans, I want to look as good as possible.
I organise my outfit days in advance, which really excites me. I also take some pictures for my Instagram account – it’s all about living with a disability and fashion.
Continuing my journey towards body positivity
By sharing my body positivity journey online and sharing photos of me in my wheelchair, I hope to inspire other people living with disabilities and body issues.
My disability stops me from doing a lot of things (that’s an honest fact), but it will not stop me from looking good on the days that I plan to go out. And it certainly will never stop me from being a lipstick-loving, shoe-obsessed woman.
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Living with disabilities has taught me a lot, but most of all, it has taught me to appreciate the small things. So if a pair of leopard print boots and a little black dress are going to make my day, I’m going to wear them. And I highly recommend that you find something that makes you feel that way too. Confidence is empowering, and it will make you love your life a little more, whether you are living with disabilities or not.
NPS-IE-NP-00346 December 2021